tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post2706487319187397753..comments2024-03-03T03:15:41.832-05:00Comments on Mara-verse: If you can't segue, then bullet pointMarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12520136607608312414noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post-31432171684692426802008-11-23T13:54:00.000-05:002008-11-23T13:54:00.000-05:00Mara,I just found your blog. I was looking for inf...Mara,<BR/>I just found your blog. I was looking for information on keeping chickens (I live in Ireland) and found your article. (great help by the way). I am just astounded at your strength to carry on through such a hard time in your life. My sister lost a baby after years and years of IVF treatment so my hubby and I made a very concious decision never to go down that road. If we failed to naturally conceive we would look into adoption. And now, 2 babies later we are finally in the throes of parenting bliss. We chose to go with Catholic Social Services (we were living in Ohio for 15 yrs) although niether of us are religious this organisation did not have one case overturned in 48 years and that was good enough for me to start with. We choose to locally adopt and also have an open adoption where we got to know the birth family. <BR/>They told us in adoption class that adopting a baby never ever replaces the baby you wanted to give birth to and I have no way of knowing or agreeing with that statement. All I know, is that as strong as you are, you will find the strength to build your family - one way or the other!<BR/>You give women hope. I am so happy to have found your story. It is inspiring. Hang in there!<BR/>Feel free to check out my blog to see photos of my two crumb catchers! wiseirishblog.blogspotWiseMónahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12560896411311415348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post-77961677157547306822008-08-20T17:32:00.000-04:002008-08-20T17:32:00.000-04:00I just read this post (clicked on your link on MDC...I just read this post (clicked on your link on MDC) and just wanted to say..<BR/><BR/>so beautiful. Your expression of your pain and hope and misery..Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08919573533399552193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post-44269419114826714782008-08-14T23:26:00.000-04:002008-08-14T23:26:00.000-04:00Found my way over here from MDC. I'm so sorry for ...Found my way over here from MDC. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope that the 5th time is the charm!<BR/><BR/><BR/>Also wanted to let you know that there are many of us out there that don't feel like adoption is a last resort. We are going through an adoption (babe was placed with us 7 weeks ago!) right now even though we are biologically able to have children.<BR/><BR/>Peace to you on whatever direction your path to motherhood ends up taking.Amoreenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11615209659728640630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post-13629286812694737032008-08-14T23:24:00.000-04:002008-08-14T23:24:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Cell Phone Tech Serviceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04386262401452555399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post-16598725703758417832008-07-29T16:15:00.000-04:002008-07-29T16:15:00.000-04:00I love it when people ask me about IVF and adoptio...I love it when people ask me about IVF and adoption. "Are you going to try IVF? Are you going to adopt?". <BR/>As if either one of those options is something I can just pop into Walmart for.<BR/>Plus do they think that people trying to have a baby haven't thought of all the options?<BR/>STFU already.<BR/>You shouldn't have to defend your choices. Do what is right for you and your husband.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post-61984820531963983622008-07-20T23:03:00.000-04:002008-07-20T23:03:00.000-04:00I so understand what you are saying, Mara. I hate...I so understand what you are saying, Mara. I hate it people who don't have a clue and haven't been there try to give advice on whatever situation you find yourself. I get it every single day from helpfully married women who live on the west side and have nannies so they can go shopping. ((((MARA))))<BR/><BR/>You have every right to want a biological child and I cannot imagine anyone flaming you for that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post-51747577546953697462008-07-20T21:22:00.000-04:002008-07-20T21:22:00.000-04:00Thanks, you guys. I was hoping I wasn't going to ...Thanks, you guys. I was hoping I wasn't going to get slammed for that post... was even thinking of taking it down. Now I'm glad I didn't. <BR/><BR/>Bella, I can't believe anyone would condemn you and Jordan for starting a family, especially when anyone with eyes can see what great parents you are (and clearly were going to be, at that point.) What a chowderbrain. <BR/><BR/>Mindi, I haven't really thought about seeing a chiro--at least, not for this reason-- since we seem to get pregnant so easily. But maybe I will now. It can't hurt, right?Marahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12520136607608312414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post-3454017056682764842008-07-20T20:47:00.000-04:002008-07-20T20:47:00.000-04:00(bella using Jordan's login)I'm constantly in awe ...(bella using Jordan's login)<BR/>I'm constantly in awe of your ability to remain so well spoken and honest, even when emotions could threaten to take over. You've got the makings of a great parent, and I can't say it enough - bugger on what anyone else might or might not say.<BR/><BR/>I was condemned by a few folks I knew because we DID get pregnant, not only naturally, but apparently had the audacity to continue to populate the planet - never mind the fact that this guy had a crap childhood and therefore, thinks all people who become parents are mental deranged... <BR/><BR/>Honestly, you can't make everyone happy, no matter how true the cause. Someone, somewhere, will always point the finger of doom and say "shame on you". I say shrug them off - you owe absolutely no one an explanation; except of course for yourself. <BR/><BR/>as always - much love to you guys!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05418046184788554618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post-82472369180644024012008-07-20T19:41:00.000-04:002008-07-20T19:41:00.000-04:00{{{Hugs}}}Very well put. I am sorry that you'...{{{Hugs}}}<BR/><BR/>Very well put. I am sorry that you're going through this again.<BR/><BR/>I get it, I have my Grandfather's blue eyes and his & my Dad's crooked smile...<BR/><BR/>Jaclyn from MDCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16291879.post-643682308959784532008-07-20T14:43:00.000-04:002008-07-20T14:43:00.000-04:00Beautiful post, Mara, and very well put. I don't ...Beautiful post, Mara, and very well put. I don't think you're silly at all, nor are your reasons frivolous.<BR/><BR/>BTW, have you considered trying some chiropractic care? I've heard anecdotally about many women becoming pregnant after years of trying with getting their spines aligned and their nervous system in balance.<BR/><BR/>Feel free to email me if you'd like help finding someone close to you, at the very least, you can talk to someone about your particular situation and see if it's a fit... <BR/><BR/>Just a thought!<BR/>-Mindi22 from MDCAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13160011140660996852noreply@blogger.com